Lookie Loos

One thing I seriously don't get is the guys that continuously view your profile but don’t continue the communication with you.  I don’t mean people that never start communicating with you and just keep looking at your profile repeatedly.  I mean people who you start communicating with that at some point fail to reply to you.  However they keep looking back at your profile.  It’s like, what, are they just checking in to see if you’ve suddenly changed?  Second guessing?  I didn’t think you were good enough before, but now by comparison you are looking a little better. 

It just pisses me off. 

This one “Joe” (I’ve decided I’m going to start calling all guys Joe, Nick or Bob going forward with this blog.  Just to simplify things. And this guy feels like a Joe.) he and I communicated back and forth a short bit and things seemed to be moving along.  Then he stopped responding.  A couple of weeks later my friend got into my account and he was one of the 3 she messaged saying “let’s meet up”.  Well that seemed to spark a bit of a fire under his butt and he wrote back saying how it was great to hear from me, he had wanted to message me back but had thought too much time had passed.  Yadda yadda yadda… we ended up exchanging numbers and planning to meet for coffee the next Monday.  Only thing is we never did meet.  The dufus never confirmed a time and place and even when I sucked it up and sent him a text- NO RESPONSE. 

Fine whatever, he didn’t want to meet.  No skin off my nose.  I was just more annoyed at why he would exchange numbers if he wasn’t sure.  I really don’t get guys.  And I further don’t understand why over a month later he is STILL looking at my profile. 

Also Bob Bean.  We communicated a bit then the guy just disappears.  Weeks later he is still looking at my profile.  Why?  If there was anything remotely interesting about my profile, why don’t they just try and communicate rather than blowing me off?

Here is the thing- if my profile pictures were remotely provocative I could totally understand why they kept looking back but never communicating.  Heck, I may not want to get to know the guys showing off the six packs as their profile photo, but I sure do appreciate the fact they are there to see.  But let’s be realistic- I am no super model and show no cleavage.  If my profile was riddled with jokes, I could get that too.  Nope, it’s not.  It’s pretty basic.  A little bit of interesting info, just enough to tease that I am a fun person, without giving too much.  I like to play the tease. 

You know, if this wasn’t online there would be a word for what they are doing: Stalking.  To continuously keep following/looking at someone from a distance but not interact with them.  How would you feel if you kept randomly seeing someone on the street looking at you but never saying anything?  Actually, that doesn’t even cover it.  It’s pretty much this guy introduces himself to you, has a short conversation, and then proceeds to show up repeatedly and look at you from a distance but never tries to talk to you again.  We would call that a creep.  Not socially acceptable behavior.  However since this is through the internet it is ok. 

Here’s a thought: Perhaps these guys just have no balls.  Actually they are probably creeps with no balls.  Maybe that is why they keep looking but not talking.  “Oooo, meet a girl?  That is so much work.  I want one to just fall into my lap.”  Or maybe I just had a bit too much self-confidence for them.  I tease and am honest.  I don’t play games.  Maybe they are looking for a girl with no self confidence that will be at their beck and call and beg them to go on a date to validate them.  Girls that need a guy to tell them how great they are and are willing to do whatever the guy wants in exchange for the few compliments.  That will never be me.